
So, at the grand old age of 47, I decided to go to university to study for a degree in mental health nursing. Why so old I hear you cry?
Well… at the tender age of 18, I became pregnant with my first child; becoming a mum was the biggest and most important thing I had ever done, and I wanted to be the best. I remember holding my son for the first time and feeling an overwhelming sensation of love, quickly followed by fear. His whole future happiness depended on me being everything he needed me to be. I married and had another two beautiful children, daughters; I was delighted and wanted to be the very best version of myself for them too. While my children were small, my career had to take a back seat, but this did not take away from the burning ambition I always felt to become a registered mental health nurse.
I felt great pride working as a healthcare assistant with the NHS for twenty-two years, but even with all those years of experience, I had never felt like a leader. Whilst I loved my job and enjoyed working as a team, I recognised that I lacked the ability to be assertive, preferring to take a back seat and follow the natural leaders I worked alongside.
I did not doubt that I had all the attributes it takes to be a great nurse- someone who was not afraid of hard work, determined to be an advocate for my patients, caring and compassionate always; however, I felt that a leader I was not!
Soon after starting my degree, I was invited to apply to join the Student Leadership Academy (SLA); I plucked up the courage to apply and was delighted to be accepted onto the programme by the director of the SLA, Beryl Mansell. This was the beginning of an exciting and illuminating journey.
Why was I so afraid of being a leader?
I realise now that past experiences had obscured my perspective of what it takes to be a leader! I had worked with some intimidating leaders during my career where there was no room for compromise or negotiation. I never wanted to be that person, so I just presumed I was not cut out to lead.
The Student Leadership Academy was welcoming and encouraging and put a completely different spin on the type of leadership I had witnessed many times during my career. This was about encouraging leaders to demonstrate emotional intelligence, compassion and empathy, considering the views of other team members to create the best outcome for all involved. This made me think I could be a leader after all! Maybe I already was?
My learning experience at the SLA began with online conferences (due to covid 19 restrictions) where we were introduced to people who held various leadership roles within the NHS. I felt genuinely inspired by their stories of what had led them to want to become the type of leader that they had become. This was a turning point for me; I began to believe that I had all the qualities that a leader needed to be successful. The people I listened to were passionate about their work and demonstrated genuine care for their colleagues. I felt enlightened by this supportive encouragement towards colleagues to be open and honest without fear of retribution!
I was then introduced to Mrs. Hazel Powell, a Nursing Officer in Mental Health and Learning Disabilities who became my personal coach for the rest of my time on the programme. I am so grateful to Hazel for all the understanding, support and kindness she showed me. I was wracked with guilt for wanting to pursue a career in Nursing, as I knew it would impact my family for me to do so, particularly throughout the three years at university. By sharing her own personal experience with me, Hazel was able to give me some insight into some of the feelings I may encounter. This helped me understand that instead of thinking how selfish I am for wanting to better myself, I am demonstrating grit and determination that my young daughters can learn from, reminding them that with hard work, it is never too late to give up on your dreams. Nothing is impossible if you want it enough!
I have now told my children to make a promise to themselves, that no matter how hard life gets, to never give up on their dreams.
And so here I am today telling you, my story; I begin the final year of my degree in just over a week, and I now feel like I am a leader. I feel empowered, but most of all proud of how far that once fearful 18-year-old girl with her whole life ahead of her has come.
Judy Jones, Mental Health Nursing Student.












