I have always been perceived by the people around me as different. Aspects such as how I can learn and turn my hand to almost anything in a short space of time and apply logic to concepts that I am unfamiliar with and be correct most of the time. I was also known for being very volatile, acting on emotions, which created a self-destructive tendency that negatively impacted me and the people around me. I found myself on two extreme ends of the scale, where I could excel in tasks like work and career development, and be the tornado of destruction in my personal life. This volatile behaviour resulted in me hurting my family and my partner, resulting in me separating from them.
I started seeking help from my GP who prescribed me antidepressants, which only worsened the situation as I became emotionally shut down, creating more distance between my family and me. To add insult to injury, the news of the closure of Tata Steel’s heavy end where I worked, sending me into a complete emotional meltdown. As a pre-emptive measure, I applied to Swansea University to study medical engineering, and I was fortunate to secure a place. This really took a huge amount of stress from me and let me continue to focus on trying to repair myself and the damage I had done to my family. I attended counselling that helped with coping strategies and got me to a stage where I titrated off antidepressants, but I felt that this was not addressing the root cause. I started my studies, and this became very overwhelming quite quickly. It had made me question my ability to finish my studies, particularly because it has once again impacted those closest to me.
One of my lectures was on Compassionate Leadership, delivered by Beryl Mansel (Associate Professor). I found the lecture very inspiring and mentioned a lot of principles I believed in as a leader.

Beryl Mansel promoted the work of the Student Leadership Academy, and I was really interested in applying, so I did. I was fortunate enough to be accepted, and the first two days of the Leadership Conference was on the 13th and 14th of March 2025. This was the start of a fundamental change in my life. The two days comprised presentations and team working activities, which I found very interesting and eye-opening. I had never heard of Imposter Syndrome until this meeting, and it made me realise a fundamental mindset that I have been applying most of my life. I have always experienced my life in two extremes. Either I excel or I struggle and there is no middle ground. This would create an emotional rollercoaster that would impact people around me. Due to these extreme opposites, I found myself questioning my achievements as mere coincidences rather than reflections of my ability.
I found it impossible to receive praise. Whatever I did was not good enough, small mistakes were failure and asking for help was a sign of weakness. This ruled my life, and I believed that I was a complete imposter on one end and defensively barricaded, thinking I would be found out as an imposter at any point. On the second day Clare Daniel Integrated Psychological Therapy Practitioner delivered her presentation on Neurodiversity and her experiences of day-to-day life. Clare described how she sees the world which seemed very similar to how I see things, and it really made me realise that how I see certain things is not the norm and is not a curse and can be used as a superpower.
I had a good chat with Clare at the end of the day and it energised me to seek help and advice. I reached out to a member of the student support services who supported me through my journey and facilitated tests which diagnosed me with dyslexia and ADHD. This diagnosis gave me acceptance and a rationale that changed my mindset. I now have supportive plans in place to help with my studies, and through education of ADHD and dyslexia, my family and I have a better understanding and coping strategies, which have made a major impact.
From Beryl’s lecture, the Student Leadership Academies’ participants and guest speakers, I was able to take a pivotal turn in my life. Not only do I believe in the application of Compassionate Leadership as a way of life, I also believe it has the power to transform how people see the world and inspire truly life-changing outcomes.
The Student Leadership Academy has given me the self-confidence and self-understanding to overcome challenges and strive for continuous growth both personally and professionally. I still believe I am not perfect, but I believe that constant self-improvement and self-reflection is a part of my journey moving forward. This approach has improved my life and gave me a new understanding of how diverse we all are, changing my relationships and my outlook on day to day life. From the 13th of March 2025, my relationship with my family has changed significantly. I have moved back into the family home, and my partner and I have since married. I have support in my studies and knowing my characteristics of ADHD I have changed my academic approach, which has drastically reduced the stress of academic life.
Thank you Beryl, Clare and the Student Leadership Academy.
Jason Bailey




















